(FL) Negative thought loops are powerful forces. Just saying we want to change them doesn’t guarantee success. What happens when we keep playing our failures over and over in continuous loop?
(MCF) When we keep reliving our past mistakes, we’re energizing those negative thoughts. They’re toxins. They become radioactive. Everyone has regrets; they’re part of our history. Let them live in the past. Protect yourself from them the same way you protect yourself from stepping in front of a bus, when you see them coming at you, step back.
Here’s a quick tool to destroy them: Visualize the negative thoughts continually spiraling around in a loop. Then visualize creating a distance from them. Then, see them fading, or exploding. Now fill in the void with something positive.
(FL) How can we create a picture of optimism about ourselves that we can believe in to fill that void?
(MCF) Past accomplishments are predictors of the future. List your accomplishments and successes; everyone has lots of them both small and large. We often let them get buried and forgotten.
Just because something ends badly like a relationship, job, etc., doesn’t mean it was all negative. There were undoubtedly good things within it. When something ends badly we tend to focus a lot of energy on the negative ending and forget there were positive things within it. The positive things will serve us better to prepare for the future than the negative ones.