Here for the PARTY? Be sure and stay for the reinvention blog!
For blogging purposes I’m getting ahead of myself talking about the launch party for my new venture when I haven’t shared with you how I even got to this point. But we’ll talk about that later.
Launching is the first milestone. It was fun to celebrate with a party because of the work it took to reinvent Flashionista, but when the party’s over, the REAL work begins.
The evening was fun. I got LOTS of great feedback and SOLD lots of jewelry. Great friends came out and LET me accessorize them, and THEN bought piles of jewelry. Hmmm can I turn my LOVE of friends and parties into a business?
Here are some of my favorite shots of the evening.
1. This is a Carven Coat. It was a holiday gift from my husband. We got lucky at a Barney’s after Christmas sale! My only criterion was I didn’t want another BLACK coat. This one is really charming and I feel really cool in it.
2. Gold leather gloves. I bought these and paid full retail very early in the season. I wear them carefully. Leather gloves seem to have a short life span, either I lose one or they get all stretched out. I usually buy them on sale after Christmas but I LOVED this color and knew if I waited I’d never find it again.
3. Cashmere cardigan. There are a few items I buy and wear ALL the time and cardigans are one of them. I like to wear them under blazers too. This one is a White & Warren grey cashmere. I’m trying to wean myself off black so I buy grey!
4, 6, & 8. My jewels. I load them on. Since I’m a jewelry designer and seller, I wear mostly my own stuff. The Gautama bracelet (4) and the Industrial Wrap (8) are at the top of my current rotation. The tray of necklaces contains items I like to layer on. My style has evolved around jewelry. My clothes are simple to accommodate all the accessories I wear.
5. My shoes. These are Talbots. I like heels but need to be comfortable, these work. Christian Louboutin is always quoted saying that his shoes are works of art and art should transcend comfort. Every time I read one of his crazy quotes I want to put HIM in a pair of his 5 inch stilettos and make him walk from the Empire State Building to the Port Authority, a distance of about half a mile which New Yorkers do regularly.
7. Red Lips. I wear Lipstick Queen Sinner in Rouge. It has 90% pigment which means your lips make a statement without saying a word.
9. My Vince Tunic. This was a splurge this past fall. It’s silk and feels like heaven on my body. It dresses up my jeans and looks great under cardigans. I wore it with high heeled sandals and coral ankle pants on vacation.
10. My bag. Carol S. Miller’s bags are a secret that should be shared. After a long career in the fashion industry (just like moi) Carol started designing handbags. Her bags have no visible labels. They look like a million and cost a whole lot less.
11. My jeans. They’re Tallbots Straight Leg and have a lot going for them. They are well priced and fit like a dream. For the most part, once a girl is over 40 her jeans should NOT call attention to themselves. Bad fitting jeans can be as damaging to your look as a 2 month cake binge.
What to buy now.
No matter what we look like from the waist down, there’s a pair of black pants that will make us look firmer, flatter, and thinner. This is exactly why our attachment causes us to overload our closets with them. This spring the stores are alive with patterns and the printed is a remarkably wearable trend for Spring 2012.
Prints can create a number of illusions especially when worn below the waist. Printed pants can make us look twice our size or half our size depending on the print, the fit, and what we wear with them.
The Elizabeth & James pant, even though it’s in a busy print, can still minimize because it’s in a soft flowing fabric and has a wide leg. The wide leg is slimming if the fit is right. The pant should fall from hip to hem without touching the body. If it’s too tight anywhere the minimizing properties are instantly reversed. This style will work if you’re 5’4” or taller.
When wearing a wide leg pant chose a solid color top that is not tucked in. It should fit close to the body and hit between the top of the hip and mid hip. Pants this full usually work best with some heel height: consider a high heeled sandal or wedge heel.
The Diane Von Furstenberg pant is higher waisted and tapered at the ankle so it’s going to work best if you’re on the taller side. Tucking in your shirt will show off your waist and camouflage any tummy. Wear with either a flat or heeled sandal.
The Talbot’s paisley print has a lot of good things going for it. The monochromatic print with a lot of dark color will minimize hips. The ankle length works for any height. If you’re petite, this is a good way to wear a printed pant without looking like the print is wearing you. The ankle length will work for any height and with any casual shoe regardless of the heel height. Tuck in a crisp white shirt or throw on a white linen tunic.
2012 Fashion: How to SPARKLE!
Even with the THE most fashionable accoutrements, a girl is more than just a clothes hanger.
Although we’re only a few weeks into the New Year, many of our best laid resolutions have already been broken. According to behavioral scientists, milk has a longer shelf life than most New Year’s resolutions. Most are toast by January 30. So, chuck em.’
Instead try our Top 5 De-Resolutions for 2012
1. Stop comparing yourself to Oprah, Madonna, or the Kardashians. Not all of us were put here to build media empires or sing and dance naked in front of millions. Nothing puts us in a funk faster than thinking we’re not good enough as we are. There’s something good about you and if you’re not sure what it is (or you need a little ego boost) ask someone you trust.
2. Stop apologizing. If you’re responsible for creating a dastardly problem then take the responsibility, say you’re sorry and then let it go. Chronic apologizing is not conducive to healthy self-esteem. You are NOT the cause of most problems so you don’t need to apologize for them.
3. Stop procrastinating. Avoidance is the antidote to what overwhelms us, which may commonly be the BIG unrealistic goals we set for ourselves. Earn more. Eat less. Lose weight. Find love. Get in shape. Get out of debt. These are some common BIG goals that end up on resolution lists. Listing any one of these without a clear path of small steps to reach the end goal is a sure way to create a climate ripe for procrastinating.
4. Stop beating yourself up for comparing, apologizing and procrastinating. It’s the least you can do while you’re working on the only real goal that should be on your resolution list: self-acceptance.
5. Start loving yourself. To jump start loving yourself see points 1 through 4 above!
Often what ages us the most has nothing to do with how we look or what we wear. How we respond to change makes us either modern or out of touch.
This past weekend was the annual New Yorker Festival. The Festival spans several days during which many of the magazine’s contributors participate in readings and discussions.
I attended a panel discussion between two well known photographers, Martin Schoeller, a 40-ish man whose work I was not familiar with, and Mary Ellen Mark, a 60+ woman whose work I’ve admired for over 25 years. Their photographs were hung around the gallery in a carefully curated story. Beautiful art is ageless.
The discussion was moderated by their former editor at the New Yorker. Mr. Schoeller was funny, engaging, perceptive, and creative. Ms. Mark was condescending, intimidating, perceptive, and creative.
Personalities are as unique as fingerprints, but the differences didn’t become glaringly apparent until the floor was opened to questions. Someone asked the two about how digital technology was influencing their work. BOOM! The concept of digital photography was embraced by Mr. Schoeller as a game changing medium, and slashed bashed and hashed with ferocity by Ms. Mark who said it was something to be “appreciated” but would not be part of her art.
Considering the importance of digital technology and its integration into almost every part of our lives, her emphatic denunciation seemed defensive and old school. It reminded me of a family story: It seems my great-grandfather fought vehemently against his son’s decision to purchase a car. “Why should I buy a car when I have a barn full of horses that can take me anywhere I want to go?”
The more familiar we get with our personal style, the less we’ll be inclined to get lost in the brain zone that leaves us powerless over purchases we end up regretting. I’m not suggesting NEVER giving in to spontaneity, but before going over the edge at least make sure there’s a good return policy. In my personal experience, I’ve gotten in more trouble over shoes than anything else.
Ankle boots are at the top of my Fall Wish List. They have a versatility I’ve grown to appreciate because of the black patent leather ones I’ve worn several times a week for the past 3 falls and winters. The cost per wear is pennies by now. It’s time for some new ones.
Here’s what looks good now by color, heel height, and by price point.
1. Miz Mooz $137, Foster Ankle Boot. 2. Rachel Comey $341, Sir Barton Bootie. 3. Donald J. Pliner $285, Monica Booties. 4. Earthies $159, Halley Booties. 5. Elizabeth & James $295, Shane Booties. 6. Rag & Bone $495, Lovell Booties.1. Born $130, Tie Ramsey. 2. Stella McCartney $385, Preston Ankle Boots. 3. Stuart Weitzman $450, Xplain Bootie. 4. Teal Wedge $110, Aldo. 5. DVF $150, Military Tie-Up (Editor’s Pick!) 6. Jeanette Booties $480, Opening Ceremony.
The NEW shoe guide lines:
- Shoes should NEVER match the bag if you’re a day over 30. It’ll age you at least 10 years.
- Shoes and clothing that match should be limited to bridal occasions and not much else. In other words, if you’re wearing a red dress don’t wear red shoes. The most modern way to do it is to wear either a contrasting or a neutral color.
- Do NOT be afraid of colored shoes!