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How To Wear It Like It’s 2010 No matter what age we are, dressing ourselves head to toe into any one trend means we risk looking like a cliché. With this one, we have the added danger of also looking like our mothers.
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Anything Is Possible. How Much Do You Want It?
In his classic,Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill points out that persistence is a state of mind, and like all states of mind, it can be cultivated.
When it comes to being successful at anything, persistence trumps money, talent, genius, and education.
The Flashionista’s Pocket Guide to Persistence:
- Define it. Knowing exactly what you want is the most important step toward getting it.
- Make sure you want it. The more intense the desire the more likely you’ll persist. It’s the difference between getting what you want and being satisfied with whatever comes your way.
- Make accurate plans for it. Do your homework. Don’t guess. Use experience, observation, education, and any other resources available. Achieving a big goal requires the completion of many smaller goals, which is why accurate planning comes in handy.
- Write it down. Things get clearer when you commit them to paper. Writing helps lift doubts and delusions; when you’re ready to do that, start writing.
- Believe it. Your ability to overcome self doubt depends on your ability to defeat it.
- The most immediate solution is, every time feelings of insecurity creep in, remind yourself of your goal and your desire to reach it. This gets easier the more you practice it.
- Create momentum. Do something to advance your goal every day. On good days, this is easy. But it’s especially important when you feel like you’re overwhelmed or underwater.
- Have an inspiration for it. Find success stories about others who have done what you want to do. Read books, blogs, and magazines that will keep you engaged in reaching your goal.
- Stick with it. Consistency creates persistence.
When it comes to being successful at anything, persistence trumps money, talent, genius, and education.
Fashion and the Muses: We looked at a few of the most interesting Fall 2010 trends and found ourselves in a “Back To The Future” spin. Everything looked familiar. We selected 3 trends and put together a lesson in where trends come from.
Find Love Online. Albert Einstein said, “Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.” Meaning the right person isn’t likely to fall on your head. To make connections, you have to search where you’re likely to find them.
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Linda Miller’s cyber searches have yielded over 400 first dates, but no soulmate yet. Undaunted, she realized that mistakes are a terrible thing to waste, so she documented her quest in a book, In Search of My Last 1st Date. Many of Linda’s “love” connections remain friends and Miller uses their stories (in their words) as a prism though which we see cyber dating from the male perspective.
Her “ground rules” make online dating easier and you’re less likely to get burned and more likely to be successful. Sort of like skiing; with the right gear, you can ski better and stay on the slopes longer. Here are some of her best:
1) Use your brain before engaging other body parts. This helps recognize potentials who will (or won’t) work for you.
2) For every 5 potentials you email, 3 (or so) will respond. Don’t take it personally. It’s not necessary for you to respond to everyone either. If you’re not interested, now is the time to delete.
3) Limit pre-1st date involvement to just enough communication to decide if you want to meet in person. Fantasy builds in direct proportion to the time spent pre-1st date, and you risk creating a relationship that doesn’t exist.
4) Proceed with caution for 90 days. Ninety percent of all relationships don’t last 90 days. If you’re alert, you can discover 95% of what you need to know about someone during this time.
5) Be a baggage sniffer. “Inattentional blindness” is the phenomenon of being unable to see things that are actually there. Don’t let the lure of the pleasures of new love (or lust) obscure red flags.
6) Actions speak louder than words. Characters and lives are defined but by what we do, not what we say. Don’t be seduced by superficial impressions.
7) Don’t fall in love with someone’s potential. How they were then and how they are now are similar versions to how they will be in the future.
Keep your eyes (and mind) open. Dating requires the willingness to experiment. Like chemistry, the right formula can create magic and the wrong one can set the house on fire. If you don’t try, you’ll never know what could have been.
An Emotional Hijacking and a Crash Landing: Steven Slater’s personal plane crash is international news. He’s become the poster boy for publicly unleashing pent up frustrations, after a rude angry passenger hit him with her carry-on.
